“It should be a sacred day for you when one of your people die. ”
Perhaps the most Sacred journey we will ever go on is the passage of Death & Dying.
As a certified Death Doula, It is my great honour & privilege to support those who are dying as well as their family & loved ones. If you have come to this page because you or someone you know is seeking this support, know that I and my Beloved partner (who is also a Death Doula) honour death with the utmost respect & reverence. Regardless of what your personal belief systems is, we will uphold and honour it.
We will explore who you are, the life you have lived & the legacy you desire to leave behind. You and your loved ones will be supported to identify & address your practical, emotional, physical and spiritual needs.
We also offer consultation services on beautiful home funerals & green burials.
Benefits of Working with a Death Doula Couple (My partner Happy & I)
Experience the love & beauty of having a Masculine & Feminine Bodied Presence
Experience the unique gifts that we each hold & benefit from our loving Synergy
Some say it feels like Mom & Dad “holding” them emotionally, mentally, spiritually & Physically during a challenging time
Team work can support the ease & flow
Synergy of practical needs that require physical exertion & more “hands” on deck
Option # 2
For those who are NOT immediately facing death & dying, you may be curious about planning ahead & facing life’s greatest fear with the intention of improving your current quality of life.
We can explore the fear of death & the avoidance of planning for our death through practical & emotional exercises designed to leave you desiring to live ON PURPOSE & experience the peace of knowing that all the practical details of your dying are taken care of in advance.
“Love takes death and creates a passageway for greater LIFE”
“What is your Legacy? Let’s get really clear about the footprint you desire to leave on people’s hearts & the heart of the planet.”
GO DEEPER WITH A STORY…
My first really impactful experience with death was when I found out that my first love was murdered. I was about to head out to work and heard his name on a news broadcast. Then I saw his picture. To my surprise, I started laughing in shock! (shock can elicit many responses and all are ok)
I was 19 and I did not know how to process my grief. This was a significant loss piled on a life of, to that point, ungrieved losses. I spent weeks cycling through drinking and sitting in the dark.
I have had the experience of feeling dismissed for how important my first love was to me. I wonder if anyone out there can relate? The judgement was that I could not possibly know love as a teenager.
After having been in many relationships since then, I can attest wholeheartedly that my first love left a significant footprint on my heart. It was the first time I really felt seen, heard & cared for in an intimate relationship. He stayed present with me & through some painful experiences, including desiring to end my life so that the pain would go away. He talked me “off the ledge” so to speak.
Through some of my harrowing experiences (especially while being trafficked), I have had glimpses of the possibility of my own life ending.
I have sat with family members & survivors listening to their grief for the loss of their murdered or missing Indigenous women and girls. Sitting with another’s grief and/or anger without moving to fix it is not easy at first. However, it is necessary. It requires being able to sit with our own grief & anger, shock, denial etc..
We don’t talk so openly about death and dying, especially here in the West. I believe our avoidance of facing fears of death/dying & planning accordingly actually prevents us from fully embracing life. Until of course, we or someone we love is dying, and even then, we just want the experience to go away as quickly as possible.
Life is cyclical. Nature teaches us that for every ending, there is a new beginning. Fall transitions to Winter, Winter to Spring. Day becomes night, night becomes Day. And so on. It’s hard to trust what is unknown, and I believe that life is constantly trying to prepare us for perhaps the greatest “letting go” - into the unknown of death. Sure, we can resist this preparation and I don’t know about you… but for me, learning to flow with the cyclical nature of life has given me a greater experience of myself as capable & resilient….a greater sense of peace.
The Ancient Egyptians had such a reverence for death (perhaps as much or even more than life) that sparks in me curiosity & openness to have more conversations. The Tibetan Book of the Dead also highlights the stages of consciousness we can still experience (even when the body is given up).
Through my Death Doula training, I have witnessed just how Sacred & Beautiful preparing for death & home funerals/viewings can be… the peace on the deceased’s face.
And I am inspired to keep the conversation going….
What do you believe? What, if any, are your fears with death/dyeing? I would love to hear…
All beliefs or (non0beliefs) are welcome.